Caregiver Stories and Stress Solutions


At first, Dr. Tom DeLoughry was overwhelmed as his mother’s caregiver – despite being an Assistant Professor in Family Medicine and Public Health with expertise in each of her three illnesses. Afterward, he wrote Caregiver Stories and Stress Solutions  (available now on Amazon) – ten short stories about his stumbles, strategies, and successes as his mother’s caregiver.  He also created Less Stress, Better Health and More Love as a free workshop.  Both were honored by AARP’s Social Impact Award as “a simple mind-body-spirit program for seniors, adults and teens of any faith… or no faith.” It has been well-received by family caregivers, as well as those providing medical, emotional and spiritual care.

He draws on his experience as Director of drug abuse and adolescent services in Child Psychiatry at Buffalo Children’s’ Hospital; Director of Health Management Services for a large managed care organization; plus director of a Franciscan retreat center and chair of Older Adult Ministries for the Upper New York Conference of the United Methodist Church to show how three generations can help themselves and each other to:

  • Stop stress and experience more love

    The Wellness Puzzle

  • Manage chronic and infectious illnesses, including COVID 19.
  • Improve the quality of your medical, emotional and spiritual care
  • Create a “caring team” to get support and reduce hospitalizations
  • Learn how each piece of your Wellness Puzzle can help or harm the other pieces
  • Help yourself by helping others
  • Plan for life’s final chapter
  • Address environmental and social factors that threaten our wellness.

These “Caregiver Stories”  – as well as his leadership positions in mental health, health care and spiritual care – inspired three novels: The Friendship Trilogy

Friendship  (book one) is available now as a free Amazon Unlimited e-book.